These cats are my… inspiration.  I look at these cats everyday while I work on my book, “The Guys’ Guide to Hashimoto’s“.

I would much rather be running around on the beach with my kiddos and wife, but I have a goal…

To get this much needed book out there for men who will need a guide along the path of this ‘not so fun’ diagnosis.

So, I get to work like crazy, and look at my Italian ‘cats’.

I love my crazy life and what I get to do to make a difference in the world.

Back to work!!!

Rock (and the cats)

Hey guys,

You’ve probably asked this question (maybe not out loud) – Where is the Woman I Married?

(Sigh)

I wrote an article for Hypothyroid Mom, Dana Trentini, that has been really helping men to get up to speed on what their Hashi woman needs.

As I write this, it’s gotten over 10,000 likes and 5,500 shares on Facebook in about 3 days.

Check it out here: http://hypothyroidmom.com/married-to-hashimotos-wheres-the-woman-i-married

Hey ho there people,

E Ticket Ride - look it up

Are we having fun yet?

This is Rock Robbins, your host to the adventure of having a spouse with Hashimoto’s.  Some people go to Disneyland for a wild ride, my wife, Stacey, and I got the the “E-ticket” for Hashimoto’s.

Ok, why the humor?  Isn’t this site supposed to be serious / helpful?

Well, you’re going to need some humor, because it’s going to help you get through some of the rougher times when you’re likely going to need it.  I think that’s very helpful.

Hopefully you won’t have hard times – I really hope so.  But this site is here, just in case.

If you haven’t read my Hashimoto’s story yet, you can find it here.

So, why am I doing this?

I want to have this site to be a resource for husbands (and even other family members) who don’t have a clue what Hashimoto’s is, or for those who think they do, but maybe really don’t.

I plan to have all the basic, intermediate, and some advanced questions here… but mostly the basics, because that’s what I really needed back in the beginning.  I had questions, like…

 

What the heck is Hashimoto’s?  And can someone please explain it in an easy to digest way.

Is this something that she can just take a pill for and BOOM life goes back to normal?

Will my wife have energy, vitality, and get back up off the bed or couch again?

 

And that all important question…

 

Will we ever… ever… have sex again?

Hang tight, we will address this and more.   (And yes, there’s hope for that last part.  Whew.)

Am I really needed here?

CluelessIf we’re being honest, I really didn’t worry about any of this back in the beginning, as I was too busy with being selfish with my own life.  Yes, I was the center of my universe.

I mean, don’t get me wrong.  I love my wife, and back then I served her in many ways.  But, if you were looking for natural treatments for health issues, or in depth sympathy – that was really my wife’s department.  This was her wheelhouse, her specialty.

Now if you needed your computer looked at, a saxophone solo, something heavy lifted, or getting something off a tall shelf – that was my department. We had strict union rules about not doing each other’s jobs.

All kidding aside, I was really hoping our doctor, and my wife (who has superior insight and ninja health skills already) would have this Hashimoto’s thing figured out in a couple weeks, maybe a month tops.  I really had no idea it was going to be such a big deal.

Some 20 years later, here we are – in a MUCH better place than we were.  And the understanding and treatment of Hashimoto’s is in a much better place too (if you ask the right people), but there’s still confusion out there.  There are a lot of women (and their families) trying the ‘old’ traditional way of dealing with this from well-meaning doctors and specialists, and feeling like they’re going crazy because they’re not feeling better even though their ‘levels are in range’.

That’s why I’m doing this…

 

  • Family photo at Benihanas - tighterIt’s for my wife and me, so we can have the best life and health possible.

 

  • It’s for my kids, so they get to know their mom as healthy, playful, and whole/intact person.

 

  • It’s for the woman who’s close to giving up hope that she’ll ever feel better, or lose weight again.

 

  • It’s for the husband, who just wants things to go back to the way they used to be, but maybe needs a new vision and partnership with his wife in her health journey.

 

  • It’s for the family members who don’t get why this is such a problem, and maybe need a little less judgement, and a little more understanding and compassion for someone who ‘looks fine’ on the outside.

 

I want to shortcut you and the woman you love to the place of health, wholeness, peace, and fun again.  Now, it may not be a ‘snap your fingers and everything’s back to normal experience’, but it also doesn’t have to be a tormenting, unnecessarily long, frustrating process either.

If you’re willing to invest some time and the natural guy fixit / troubleshooting sensibility to this issue, you will not only get the appreciation of your woman, you’ll make both of your lives a better place on this health journey.

It’s important that we men use our unique strengths, assurance, and steady hand at the wheel to help our women through this time.  Whatever you bring to the mix, it’s important because – you make a difference.

 

OK, I’m done with the ‘You da Man!‘ pep talk.

Thanks for coming with my on this journey.  Here we go… Rock

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Alrighty guys, I would be remiss if I didn’t mention 2 books that can really help you and your Hashi woman, right now.

The first is my wife’s book, You’re Not Crazy And You’re Not Alone: Losing the Victim, Finding Your Sense of Humor, and Learning to Love Yourself Through Hashimoto’s(Available in paperback and Kindle via Amazon.com)

This is where she can get her mind game on, to help make sure she’s not sabotaging the very healing process she’s trying to affect with lifestyle changes, and supplements.

There’s no other book out there addressing this important angle – the mind game of Hashimoto’s.

Can you get better with Hashimoto’s?  That is a VERY important question.

“Whether you think you can, or you can’t – you’re right.”  Henry Ford

From a mindset / soul perspective, this is the book to get.  Feel understood and validated.

Best selling author Dr. Izabella Wentz was kind enough to write the forward to it.

 


 

Izabella Wentz bookSpeaking of Dr. Izabella Wentz, her New York Times best selling book Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis: Lifestyle Interventions for Finding and Treating the Root Cause” is on the cutting edge of the current conversation and treatment of Hashimoto’s.  It deftly and clearly explains…

  • What Hashimoto’s is – you don’t need a medical degree understand it
  • Why the ‘old/standard’ Hashimoto’s treatments leave so many frustrated and feeling awful for years!
  • How to craft a treatment plan that’s specialized to your own body and situation

From a medical perspective, this is the book to get.  Save yourself years of frustration.

As a husband, I took just 15 minutes a day to read this, and it helped me quickly get a handle on this daunting diagnosis.

 

My family loves Izabella and Michael Wentz and the difference they’re making in the Hashi world.  Find out more about them at thyroidpharmacist.com.

There are more resources coming, but this is a great place to start.

Rock

OK guys… today we’re talking about how her stomach issues are likely a by-product of Hashimoto’s.

 

When my wife Stacey was initially going through all her crazy symptoms, her stomach was one of the things that went whacky.

 

She was dealing with…

 

  • Being exhausted after eating
  • Running to the toilet after eating a meal
  • Having to get our meal to go at a restaurant right after we started to eat

 

This was before we realized that foods with gluten (bread, pasta, donuts – basically anything with wheat)  can cause a lot of problems for people with Hashimoto’s.

 

Once we removed gluten from Stacey’s diet, within about a week, she started noticing her energy starting coming back – which was super encouraging.  Also, her anxiety reduced by 50%!!! (Yes, food can cause anxiety)

 

Here’s her story about that… (5 minutes)

 

Gluten is something you can remove for about a month to see if your woman feels better.  It’s truly one of the easiest shortcuts you can do right now to help her feel better.  I’ll have a separate article to address how to prepare/attempt that because our world pretty much revolves around gluten.

 

Back to today’s article…

 

One of our gut’s important jobs is keeping foreign objects out of our body.  Remember swallowing a penny as a kid? It came out the other end because it had no value to the body.  If somehow parts of that penny got into our blood stream, our body would seriously protest by mounting an autoimmune response.

 

The cycle can look like this…

 

  • If you have Hashimoto’s (low thyroid), it can cause leaky gut.
  • Leaky gut can allow food particles into the blood stream, which…
  • Causes the body to have an immune response and the stomach gets inflamed (not fun)
  • The leaky gut and inflamed stomach interferes with the ability absorb food properly (which affects how much of thyroid pills actually get into our body).  Which can take you back to the top of the list with low thyroid again.

 

Here’s a graphic that shows how these can affect each other in a vicious cycle

From chriskresser.com

From chriskresser.com

So, what’s the take away?

Since 70% of our immune tissue is in our gut, if you’re going to address Hashimoto’s, you need to address the leaky gut issue as part of the plan back to health and wholeness.

 

Now, this is a deep subject.  My example is simplified, and it’s more complicated.  Here are more articles that go into this in more depth.

 

The Four Best Probiotics For Hashimoto’s – The Role of the Gut – Izabella Wentz, Pharm D

The Thyroid-Gut Connection – by Chris Kesser,M.S., L.Ac

The Gut-Thyroid Connection – by Aviva Romm M.D.

Is Your Thyroid Destroying Your Gut Function? – Steve Wright

The Gluten, Gut, and Thyroid Connection – Amy Myers, MD

Rock

Well, if your woman just seems out of it and can’t get up off the couch or bed, she may be dealing with serious energy issues as a result of her thyroid being out of whack.

If that’s the case, you’re going to need to reset your expectation of what she can get done until she gets back into the energy zone.  Also, having some understanding of what it’s like on her side will help keep you out of the doghouse.

Here’s a great article from Christine Miserandino called “The Spoon Theory”.  This is about a woman dealing with Lupus, but it’s the same idea if your woman has serious thyroid fatigue going on.

www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory

OK, guys.  Your woman has been having crazy symptoms – hot, cold, tired, wired, joint pain, constipation, and on and on…

 

What the heck is going on?

 

Short version is that the symptoms she’s going through are just pieces of the puzzle of the bigger thyroid picture.

We’ll go over the difference between Hypothyroidism and Hashimoto’s in another article, but what you need to know is this – 9 out of 10 thyroid patients with Hypothyroidism have Hashimoto’s, so it’s worth looking at the symptoms of both.

Here’s a quick guide of the major symptoms of the Hypothyroidism and Hyperthyroidism…

This will help narrow down what’s going on quickly and give you a big picture overview of the symptoms.

Keep in mind, in the beginning, she may only have a few of these, but as the disease progresses, there are more and more.  This is often where women feel like they’re going crazy trying to figure out what’s going on – that’s a post for another time how these symptoms often get misdiagnosed.

Symptoms and Signs of Hypothyroidism

  • Fatigue, feeling “wiped out”
  • Cold hands and feet
  • Require excessive sleep
  • Gain weight easily
  • Neck and back pain
  • Constipation
  • Depression
  • Headaches which are worse in the morning and improve throughout the day
  • Dry/thinning hair
  • Dry skin
  • Heavy menstrual bleeding or irregular periods
  • Hoarse or raspy voice
  • Yellow skin
  • Slower thinking
  • Slower speech or movement
  • Slow heart rate
  • Infertility
  • Intestinal problems including bloating and heartburn
  • Osteoporosis
  • Hypoglycemia
  • Neuro-degeneration (nerve damage and death of neurons found in Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s and Huntington’s disease)

 

Symptoms and Signs of Hyperthyroidism

  • Heart palpitations (experienced as a “pounding” of the heart)
  • Irregular heartbeat (Arrhythmia)
  • Feeling “hyper”
  • Increased heart rate-tachycardia (above 100 beats per minute)
  • Nervousness
  • Unusual sweating
  • Loss of weight
  • Insomnia
  • Intestinal problems (diarrhea, increased frequency of bowel movements, bloating)
  • Depression
  • Changes in menstrual patterns
  • Increased sensitivity to heat
  • Anxiety
  • Loss of mental clarity (brain fog)
  • Weakness
  • Bulging eyes
  • Skin rash

 

References:

Click here to see the original articles…

Is My Thyroid to Blame? 38 Most Common Symptoms (Dr. Frank Lanzisera)

Do You Have Hypothyroidism Or Hashimoto’s Or Both? (Dr. Izabella Wentz, Pharm D.)